Session 1852

“I Want to Open a Strip Club”
“Compromise Is a Discounting of You”

Friday, September 30, 2005 (Private/Phone)

Participants: Mary (Michael), Scott (Ogden) and Mary (Suchitra)

(Elias’ arrival time is 17 seconds.)

ELIAS: Good morning!


ELIAS: Welcome!

SCOTT: How are you doing?

ELIAS: As always, and yourself?

SCOTT: Good!

ELIAS: And what shall we discuss?

SCOTT: First, I’d like to know what my essence name is.

ELIAS: Essence name, Ogden, O-G-D-E-N.

SCOTT: And family?

ELIAS: And your impression? (Pause) What is your impression?

SCOTT: Sumafi.

ELIAS: Correct. And alignment?

SCOTT: Alignment? I’m not sure.

ELIAS: (Chuckles) Sumari.

SCOTT: Now on to careers. I’ve been in computers for quite a while. I’m not necessarily happy with exactly how I’m in the computer career, but that’s still an option for me, then I’m also looking at running a strip club or something. I was curious if I’d find value fulfillment in either one of those right now.

ELIAS: It is not a matter of expressing value fulfillment, for whatever you engage within this physical focus expresses some element of value fulfillment, or you would not continue in this physical reality. It is more a matter of what you want and paying attention to your preferences and also allowing yourself to engage an avenue in which you can express your creativity in a manner that is satisfying to you. Therefore, it would more be a matter of what you want than whether you shall be expressing value fulfillment.

SCOTT: That makes sense. So, if we can explore the strip club possibility, can you go down that avenue for me?

ELIAS: In what capacity?

SCOTT: To see how it’s going to work out. Will I be able to make money and still have a family life and enjoy what I’m doing?

ELIAS: That would be dependent upon you and how you engage the business and how you direct the business, and in that direction, whether you generate a balance and allow yourself to engage interaction with family and also allow yourself to delegate in association with the business. It may be a creative expression and a manner in which you can express creatively, but I would also suggest to you that you evaluate what your beliefs are in association with this direction and whether you are generating an acceptance of differences, and therefore not create opposition in association with other individuals, for that is dependent upon you.

What you are projecting in energy is what you shall reflect. If you are not expressing a defensive energy, which is also another form of opposition, if you are creating rather an energy of cooperation and if you are expressing an acknowledgment and an appreciation for what you are creating and what you are engaging, you shall also not generate opposition within community.

But that would also require paying attention to yourself and your energy, and genuinely being aware and generating balance within yourself in all avenues in association with your business, with the individuals that you interact with with your business, with family and with community, for there are strongly expressed mass beliefs in association with this type of business. But you can generate this type of business quite creatively and successfully if you are generating a balance within yourself and if you are projecting a type of energy that is expressing a genuine appreciation for what you are creating and what you are engaging.

In that, you shall generate an energy of cooperation that shall not encourage opposition from other individuals. As you express acceptance, you also draw acceptance to you. You may incorporate both avenues in generating a new business yourself. That may be an avenue in which you can engage much of your creativity in incorporating different types of expressions that may be more innovative.

SCOTT: Can you give me some examples of that?

ELIAS: You may choose to explore different possibilities of incorporating your computer skills and generating that in a creative manner that may be incorporated also into your club.

SCOTT: I’ll keep that in mind. I’ll sit down and explore those.

ELIAS: That may actually be an avenue of fun for you. I am greatly encouraging of individuals to be expanding and exploring their creativity and not limiting themselves to one particular expression, for you incorporate the ability to be much more expressive than you generally allow yourselves. In this, if you are not limiting yourself to a rigidness in your direction, it allows you to express much more of your creativity, which also enhances your success. In association with you and your energy, I would also suggest that you allow for flexibility. (25-second pause)

SCOTT: One of the other issues that I run into with thinking about starting up a business is coming up with some of the money to do so. That’s one of my beliefs that I attempted to accept, but I still run into issues with it. I feel like I need to take a job to be able to pay for some of the family and house and everything while I try to get the money to start a business, or something like that. Can you see what I’m projecting there?

ELIAS: First of all, let me express to you a reminder. You create what you concentrate upon. Concentration is not necessarily associated with thinking. What you concentrate upon is what you are generating in association with expressed beliefs. Therefore, your indicator as to what you are concentrating upon is what you are actually doing.

Now; this becomes what you may term to be the tricky area, for individuals are not accustomed to actually paying attention to what [they] are actually doing. In this, if your concentration is upon lack, that is what you shall create. If you are generating trust of yourself that you actually are creating what you want — not acquiring — this allows you to relax your energy and allows you to actually create in the direction that you want. This is the reason that I express to you to be incorporating a flexibility with yourself.

Money may be generated in many different manners, and many times you can actually begin to create what you want in association with a business without generating money first. It is merely a matter of genuinely paying attention, trusting yourself and allowing for your own expressions of creativity, challenging yourself in how you may creativity and effectively create your business in the manner that you want, but not concern yourself with certain elements that can become obstacles, such as money.

The point is to be focusing upon the process, not the outcome. Which, I am understanding that that may initially seem somewhat confusing, for you are viewing the incorporation of money as the beginning of the process, but in actuality, in the manner that you are approaching this subject, the money becomes the outcome first, which distracts from the process of creating the actual manifestation, which is the business.

In trusting yourself and not concentrating upon lack, you may be generating more of a flexibility to allow yourself to generate money in different creative manners. If you are moving your attention in the direction of acknowledging what you already have created and what you already have accomplished and what you are continuing to accomplish, this moves your concentration away from lack and allows you to be generating movement in a much more successful manner in accomplishing what you want.

SCOTT: Any other words of wisdom before I turn you over to my wife?

ELIAS: (Laughs) Pay attention to what you are actually doing. This is significant. In this, you may begin to notice different actions that you incorporate within each day that somewhat snare you and distract you away from what you actually want. It is important to be noticing.

SCOTT: Thank you very much. I’ll let my wife ask a few questions now.

ELIAS: Very well.

MARY: Hello.

ELIAS: Welcome!

MARY: I guess I should start with the name of my essence or higher self.

ELIAS: Essence name, Suchitra, S-U-C-H-I-T-R-A (soo CHEE trah).

MARY: Thank you. Maybe some ways to strengthen that connection with my higher self, recognize it more?

ELIAS: There are many different methods that you may incorporate. One is through dream imagery. Another may be accomplished through visualizations or meditation. You may incorporate brief visualizations, allowing yourself not necessarily to be directing of it, but merely allowing yourself to defocus temporarily. In that, do not discount what is presented to you. It is quite easy for individuals to discount their own impressions or visualizations and express that they are not real and that they are merely imagined.

Let me express to you, imagination is quite real. Whatever you can imagine does exist in some manner. Therefore, in allowing yourself to play with your communication of imagination, that may also be an avenue in which you may offer yourself information either in association with other focuses or you may also tap into other areas of yourself as essence.

You may also incorporate the method of tuning to your own energy deposits in certain areas of your dwelling. You all generate energy deposits in the space arrangement that you occupy. If you allow yourself a sensitivity to different physical areas in your environment, you may discover that certain areas incorporate stronger energy deposits than others. If you incorporate the action of standing or sitting in that area in which you recognize one of your own energy deposits, that enhances your experience in visualizations and may even enhance your experience in association with dream imagery.

Dreams are an excellent avenue for allowance of yourself to be tapping into other areas of consciousness, other areas of you as consciousness and as essence, for this is the manner in which you tap into the subjective movement: you merge the subjective and the objective awarenesses into one awareness. They are both participating in a manner that you are aware of. But this may also be accomplished in visualizations.

MARY: I’ve been struggling, I guess, for a long time with this relationship conflict, and I’ve gone into the area of hypnotherapy as well. I guess my first question would be is there still a conflict there that I’m struggling with? Did it get resolved? Is it lack of trust with myself and I’m avoiding the picture, or is it something else?

ELIAS: Offer explanation. What do you assess as being a conflict in association with relationship?

MARY: I guess finding my own strength and trust within myself and maybe not playing off of others. I think it has to do a lot with trust.

ELIAS: And what do you not trust?

MARY: Myself, my own choices, making mistakes.

ELIAS: In what?

MARY: My own decisions, things that I see.

ELIAS: Such as? (Pause) Offer an example.

MARY: I’m trying to think of one. (Elias chuckles) Okay, going into buy this house. I could see a different picture before we actually got into it. It’s an actual buying process and being... Before I left, I felt like I wanted to be around people, helping people and in the city, you know, involved with things. Then we go in to buy it, and I play off of a lot of my husband’s beliefs, things for my children, and I felt like... I compromise a lot with that. I don’t know.

ELIAS: Let me express to you, compromise is a dangerous avenue. It is a discounting of you, and it is also a discounting of the other individual in which you engage the compromise with.

MARY: With my husband, if he opens a strip club, I feel like I would be compromising how I feel in my beliefs to make peace with the whole family.

ELIAS: I am understanding, which is what I expressed to your partner, that the success of this type of a business is dependent upon the acceptance and cooperation and balance of him in generating an acceptance of difference. As I have stated, there are strong mass beliefs associated with this type of business. It is not that it cannot be successful and...

MARY: Is it my strong beliefs with that? I guess the conflict comes... Should I have a bigger picture and allow myself to open up my beliefs in that area, or do I stick with what I believe right now?

ELIAS: Let me express to you, it is not a matter of compromise; it is not a matter acquiescing. It is a matter of cooperation. But it is also a matter of you being aware of your guidelines and not compromising your guidelines, but also generating an expression and energy of cooperation, not opposition, and a recognition of differences, allowing yourself to generate an acceptance of differences.

Now; this is an important point, for cooperation does not require agreement, and it does not require “like.”

MARY: Agreement and what?

ELIAS: Like. It is not necessary for you to like a manifestation or an expression to cooperate with it. Cooperation does not require that you like or agree with an expression or a manifestation. In this, if you are genuinely holding your attention upon you and being aware of you and what you are doing, this allows you to move in the direction of acceptance of difference.

Each of you incorporate your own individual truths. Your individual truths are beliefs that you have generated into absolutes. Every individual incorporates their own individual truths. Your truths are not bad. They are your guidelines of how you express yourself and how you direct yourself, how you direct your behavior. They are also strongly associated with your preferences, which are also not bad.

In acceptance of your own truths, you recognize that these are your guidelines but that they are also not necessarily applicable to other individuals. Other individuals incorporate their own truths, which may be different. Their truths are equally as real as your truths are with you, and they are equally as valued as your truths are with you. Therefore, no truths are right or wrong. They are merely your individual guidelines of how you direct yourself and how you direct your behavior and how you generate your choices and what motivates many of your choices.

In compromising your truths, your guidelines, you discount yourself, which also damages your trust of yourself, for it moves you into a direction of continuously questioning yourself. That also moves you into a direction of comparing, and comparing is a strong companion to compromise and is equally as destructive and discounting.

You may be incorporating a relationship with another individual or interaction with other individuals and be expressing a cooperative energy and not opposing of the other individual, and even supportive with the other individual, and not agree. But in that, you recognize that what the other individual is expressing or choosing or doing is what THEY are choosing, not what you are choosing.

MARY: So, in the line of hypnotherapy, working with other people’s beliefs, is there a general way of... Like you said, everybody is so different. Is there something that I can add to that to help?

ELIAS: If you are engaging being the facilitator of the hypnotherapy, and you are facilitating with other individuals? (Long pause) Is this the direction that you are inquiring?

MARY: Yes.

ELIAS: In generating that type of action and creating a successful avenue in that, allow yourself to genuinely be aware of the other individual and what they are expressing. Not to interject your own associations, but merely allow the other individual to express. Allow yourself the sensitivity to their energy, to tap into what their challenge or their struggle is: genuinely listening, but not merely with your ears; listen in energy also. Be aware of what is being expressed, and do not attempt to instruct or interject your beliefs in association with the other individual’s challenge. Rather, engage that sensitivity and allow yourself to share the experience with the other individual. This shall allow you to be tapping into information much more clearly, and shall allow you to generate considerable success in that direction.

MARY: Any overall advice?

ELIAS: Not necessarily advice, but I shall express to you an exercise that I suggest you allow yourself to engage for a time framework of, in the least, two of your weeks.

In this, each time throughout each of your days that you notice yourself hesitating or compromising in any manner, whether it be merely with yourself, whether it be with your partner, whether it be with your children, whether it be with any other individual, each time you notice that you are hesitating in any interaction, preventing yourself from expressing you or compromising in any manner, notice — do not discount yourself — merely acknowledge that you are noticing. Do not compound by discounting yourself further. As you acknowledge that you noticed, place a flower in a vase. Incorporate a carefully chosen vase, one that is very pleasing to you. Let me express to you, at the close of each of your days, you shall most probably incorporate quite a bouquet. (Both laugh)

Now; this is purposeful, my friend, for in generating this type of an exercise, you are not merely becoming much more aware of how frequently you generate these actions, but you are also acknowledging yourself and offering yourself a physical expression of appreciation with the flowers, an expression of beauty which is another acknowledgment of yourself, which interrupts the automatic response of continuously discounting yourself.

MARY: Thank you.

ELIAS: You are very welcome. I am greatly encouraging of you.

MARY: Thank you. My husband has another question, so I will give you back to him.

ELIAS: Very well.

SCOTT: I don’t think I have any more questions, but our time’s almost up, anyway. (Elias chuckles) Other than I really appreciate it. You hit the nail on the head for me. (Elias laughs)

ELIAS: I am tremendously encouraging of you both and incorporate little doubt of your successfulness. (Chuckles)

SCOTT: Thank you very much.

ELIAS: I express to each of you great supportiveness and shall be offering my energy to you each. Remember, be playful. All in your reality is not so very serious! (Chuckles)

SCOTT: Okay, we will.

ELIAS: Ha ha! To you each, in tremendous lovingness and appreciation, until our next meeting, au revoir.

SCOTT: Thank you. Good-bye.

Elias departs after 48 minutes.