Hurtfulness within Relationships
Topics:
“Hurtfulness Within Relationships”
Saturday, August 1, 1998 ©
1998 (Private)
Participants: Mary (Michael) and Rodney (Zacharie).
Elias arrives at 10:22 AM. (Arrival time is 23 seconds)
ELIAS: Good morning! (Smiling)
RODNEY: Good morning to you! (Laughing) I’m a little
bit nervous!
ELIAS: Welcome once again!
RODNEY: Do you have anything you’d like to say, or would you like
me to ask questions?
ELIAS: You may present your inquiries if you are choosing.
RODNEY: Okay. I have quite a long list, (Elias chuckles)
so I need to choose. I think one of the larger issues which is not
so personal is from a reading of your session 185 in Elmira. You
were speaking of what’s going to happen in this shift in consciousness
and you made the statement that, “Within the action of your shift, you
have chosen to alter these probabilities within a recognition that all
that you hold to be negative within destruction within your belief systems
is unnecessary.” That statement has really caught my attention.
I’m aware that a great deal of my thinking, and it appears to me to be
the thinking of people that I’m in contact with, is that a common thought
is that you can’t make an omelette without breaking eggs. You can’t
accomplish something beautiful without doing something ugly. You
can’t take good care of your family without going out and being a bastard
in the world of business. (Elias chuckles) Is this what you’re
talking about in this sentence?
ELIAS: What you are referring to is in the mass belief system
of cause and effect.
Now; let me express to you that in actuality there is no cause and effect.
This is a belief system that you have created en masse upon your planet
and you hold to very tightly. Therefore, you also create this in
your reality. In actuality there is no cause and effect, and it is
unnecessary to be creating of one action to be accomplishing another action.
Example: You may step into your road — I have offered this example
previously, but it serves its purpose well — and in stepping into your
road, you may be engaged in an action with a carriage and it may strike
you.
In this, your belief system is that if you are struck by the carriage,
you shall be injured and you shall create physical displays of these injuries.
You may be creating of breakage of bones, bruises upon your skin.
You may even create more serious injuries within your physical form.
This is cause and effect. But what I express to you [is], in actuality
it is also quite possible to be standing within your road and to be struck
by a carriage and sustain no physical injuries, for it is your choice in
your alignment with the mass belief systems to be creating this or to not
be creating this, and there are physical examples throughout your planet
of this type of action occurring, where an individual may be struck in
what you term to be an accident — which there are no accidents — and sustain
no physical injury.
Now; onlookers shall express, “Oh! This is a miracle!” For
within your belief systems, a miracle is an action which you perceive to
be impossible, but it is obviously possible or there would be no creation
of the action. If it were not possible within your reality to be
creating of this type of situation and not sustain physical injuries, it
would not occur ... but it does occur! Individuals holding what you
think of as terminal illnesses instantaneously cure themselves, or are
healed in the view of other individuals by some “special power.”
In reality, they have healed themselves. They have returned their
form to its natural state within this physical manifestation, and they
have NOT created what you term to be a miracle. They have merely
uncreated a situation that they have chosen to be creating initially.
You hold the ability within physical focus to accomplish much more than
you believe you may accomplish. This be the reason that I express
much attention to belief systems and am directing of individuals to be
noticing and attending to these belief systems, for you hold belief systems
in every area of your physical focus, and some ... MANY of these belief
systems are very limiting. Within consciousness collectively within
this dimension, there is a recognition that these belief systems ARE very
limiting and that it is unnecessary to be continuing in the participation
of many of these belief systems.
RODNEY: Could I ask you to direct your attention to a specific
belief then? I have a belief, which is borne out in my daydreams,
that if I become engaged in a relationship with a woman, an intimate relationship,
that dire consequences will befall either her or myself. This is
a belief. It’s tied in with my beliefs about money, about my self
worth, about my desire to have enough space for myself; to be not totally
controlled. I recognize that I have these beliefs because I cannot
daydream about having an affair with a woman without the daydream not ending
with some terrible thing befalling either her or myself or both of us.
(Elias smiles and nods)
So, if I understand you correctly, I now know that I have these beliefs,
and if I understand you correctly, the way for me to neutralize these beliefs
is to accept that I hold these beliefs; that I accept myself and I accept
the beliefs that I hold.
ELIAS: Correct.
RODNEY: What’s the next step? Is
the next step simply suggesting to myself that I hold a more nurturing
belief, that I hold a belief that I can have a relationship that lasts
forever or that at least lasts for a period of time and will be mutually
beneficial to us both? Is that enough for me to do? It’s like,
where do I go from here?
ELIAS: Let me express to you that you have offered yourself, in
your terms, your first step. That is the recognition that there is
a belief held. Do you not find this curious and interesting that
we have moved into the area of discussion recently of relationships?
RODNEY: Yes!
ELIAS: And this you may now view: you also are participating
in this wave in consciousness that addresses to this very belief system.
And if you are recalling of our discussions in this area, you shall be
recalling that I have offered the analogy of the bird cage and all of the
aspects of this one belief system.
RODNEY: And being hurt was one of the birds.
ELIAS: Each element that you have set forth in your description
of your anticipation of what MAY — or may not — occur in the engagement
of a personal relationship with another individual are all examples of
these birds. They are all aspects of the belief system of relationships.
I have chosen to be addressing to this wave — in individuals identifying
and pulling to the surface, so to speak, this particular belief system
— for it holds so very many aspects. Many, many birds are within
this particular cage, in areas that individuals do not even allow themselves
to view.
As you have stated, you address to yourself the possibility of financial
concerns, of your own individual space, of hurtfulness, of lack of understanding,
lack of compatibility. Very many different elements enter into this
encompassing subject of belief in relationships in all areas, but within
romantic relationships this becomes even more pronounced, for individuals
do not wish to be allowing themselves to be what you term to be vulnerable.
Now; let me express to you that vulnerability, although you view this
word in a negative connotation, is merely an opening; an allowance to be
open.
RODNEY: I know.
ELIAS: Now; be remembering also the example in exercise, which
has been offered at our most recent session, of the allowance, the penetration,
and the buffer; your energy field which surrounds you.
RODNEY: I remember that discussion.
ELIAS: In this example, I have offered to you a situation that
you may engage and that you may hold within your objective thought process
that may offer you temporarily the feeling of security within yourself.
Now; let me explain. These belief systems are so very strong,
and held en masse, which adds to their strength. In these very strong
belief systems within physical focus, you view yourselves to not hold the
ability very efficiently to be battling, so to speak, these very strongly
held belief systems. In my expression to you, I suggest clearly to
you that these are more aspects of the belief systems themselves that you
do not hold the ability to be battling.
RODNEY: That’s part of the belief.
ELIAS: Correct. This is the belief of duplicity, which intertwines
itself with ALL of your belief systems. There are no belief systems
that do not intertwine with the immense belief system of duplicity.
Now; also in this, I suggest to you that there is no battle to be waged!
RODNEY: (Laughing) Okay!
ELIAS: The recognition or the noticing of the belief system is
the initial movement into acceptance. Once you have accomplished
identifying to yourself the belief system and you begin to view the aspects
of the belief system, as I have stated previously, you may begin to inquire
of yourself “why and what” in relation to these aspects of the belief system.
Look to yourself and identify that you do hold duplicity within self within
physical focus. Recognize the tremendous affectingness of this duplicity.
This shall be helpful to you, for in this you may also wage your battle
... although the battle is in actuality unnecessary!
But not discounting the strength of your belief systems, I am also recognizing
that regardless that you may not necessarily need be waging a battle within
your belief systems, this becomes necessary, for you do not view any other
“method” for your accomplishment. As I have stated many times, methods
are unnecessary, but within your physical focus you believe that methods
are necessary and you believe that there are processes to all of your accomplishments.
RODNEY: What I hear you saying is that the discovery — within
my own focus — of duplicity within myself in association with these beliefs
is the crucial issue.
ELIAS: Quite.
RODNEY: The word duplicity suggests to me a lying to oneself or
a kidding of oneself, as well as if there’s going to be heat, there must
be cold someplace, or if there’s an up, there must be a down.
ELIAS: Quite.
RODNEY: You’re using duplicity in that sense.
ELIAS: Quite.
RODNEY: The coin must have two sides. (Pause) So I
should meditate ... and I shouldn’t use the word “should!” (They
both laugh) If I meditate, if I discover for myself my true feelings
about this duplicitous nature of, say, the aspect of hurtfulness....
ELIAS: Quite! Let us focus upon this aspect itself specifically.
RODNEY: My sense is that I should always be in this discovery
process.
ELIAS: You ARE always within this discovery....
RODNEY: And consciously affecting this, to be accepting of all
of my movements in this.
ELIAS: Quite. Now; let us view the aspect of hurtfulness
within a relationship and where this aspect of the belief stems from.
The belief that there is hurtfulness within a relationship is not created
by the projection of another individual. It is created by your alignment
with this belief system of duplicity, for it matters not what another individual
may project outwardly to you. What matters, in a manner of speaking,
within physical focus is your view of yourself and your hold within that.
RODNEY: My hold?
ELIAS: Yes. Let us express our example of the allowance,
the penetration, and the buffer once again. I may be projecting any
type of energy in your direction. Now; within yourself, if you are
not engaging the belief system of duplicity and if you are holding the
recognition of the gloriousness of self, it matters not what my projection
may be, for it shall be unaffected.
RODNEY: I don’t have to objectively be remembering that I have
this field around me and that energy will burst like a bubble. I
don’t have to be doing that if I am remembering of my own gloriousness.
ELIAS: Quite. Yes, you are correct in this. Let us
focus upon another very small example.
You may be within a situation engaged in a relationship with another
individual. You are moving about within your day, and you may be
creating of an action that you place a teacup upon your table. Your
partner addresses to you angrily and expresses to you, “Why shall you place
this teacup upon the table in this manner? This is unacceptable!
You are an idiot! I do not understand your creation of placing this
cup in this manner!”
Now; your response automatically is to be receding and identifying tones
and certain terms, certain words within your language that you view to
be hurtful. You shall not be in this moment evaluating self or the
situation that has just occurred. You shall be automatically immediately
responding, and within your thought process you shall eliminate all words
save “idiot,” “unacceptable,” “wrong.” You shall save the tone which
has been projected, and these you shall permit as penetration.
RODNEY: I shall allow them to be penetrating.
ELIAS: Correct.
RODNEY: You are saying this is my belief?
ELIAS: This is the action in general that individuals within physical
focus shall be automatically creating in this type of situation.
Now; given this type of situation, let us also examine the reason that
the penetration is allowed and the reason that the response is created
automatically. This would be the belief of duplicity, for automatically
within the individual, yourself also, they shall be moving into the belief
of duplicity. Be remembering that this is not within your thought
process. It is an automatic action, just as if your physician is
striking your knee, you shall produce an automatic response in reflex.
RODNEY: That’s the duplicitousness.
ELIAS: Correct. In this duplicity you shall also, within
emotion, create an automatic response which may be compared to a reflex,
for it has become so very automatic. It needs no thought process;
it needs no evaluation. It shall merely appear automatically, immediately;
and in this, if you are identifying this duplicity, you may also offer
yourself the opportunity to not be responding.
Now; in answer to your question initially — if you are altering your
thought process in identifying this belief in the area of relationship
and you are expressing to yourself differently, shall this be affecting
of the belief systems and shall this be accepting of it? — my response
to you is, it may be affecting. It is not accepting of the belief
system. It is altering or changing the belief system. It is
changing your response to the belief system. It is changing aspects
of the belief system. In this action, you are choosing to be focusing
upon these birds ...
RODNEY: Instead of the other birds.
ELIAS: ... as opposed to focusing upon these birds.
RODNEY: It appears to me that money is a huge issue for me.
ELIAS: And for many individuals within physical focus!
RODNEY: And it seems to me that I do not have the wherewithal
to be in the kind of relationship I would want to be in because I don’t
have the money to be in the kind of relationship I would want to be in.
That seems to be part of my belief.
ELIAS: Quite! For examine also....
RODNEY: Because I believe that women require great amounts of
money!
ELIAS: Now; view to yourself, in this you present yourself with
two aspects: Women require vast amounts of financial expression.
RODNEY: Yes.
ELIAS: You do not hold the physical ability to provide this.
RODNEY: Yes.
ELIAS: Underlying that aspect is another aspect which attaches
once again to the belief system of duplicity, in that you view within your
officially accepted reality that you must be generating of this monetary
gain. You must be engaging in acquiring physical currency, and your
ability to be acquiring this physical currency is limited. It also
is provided by limited actions. It shall not merely fall from the
sky!
RODNEY: Oh, yes!
ELIAS: You ...
RODNEY: Don’t allow it to fall from the sky!
ELIAS: ... shall not merely generate this currency appearing,
although let me express to you that this aspect is another very limiting
aspect of your belief systems, and in actuality you may be generating not
only of all of your needs, but many of your wants.
RODNEY: To be falling from the sky?
ELIAS: In a figurative manner of speaking, creatively, yes.
For shall it not be amazing to you that this currency may appear seemingly
from nowhere? It does not, for you do not believe that it shall.
RODNEY: Well, you have to work for it!
ELIAS: Quite!
RODNEY: Hmm!
ELIAS: This is another aspect of the belief system.
RODNEY: Yes, I am aware.
ELIAS: In moving into the direction of trusting and accepting
self, you shall offer yourself amazement in what you shall be creating,
for your creativity is allowed much more of an expansiveness. And
although this initially may hold fearfulness for you, you also, in allowing
yourself to move into the trust and acceptance of self, shall validate
yourself, and this shall, little by little by little, erode away your fearfulness,
for you shall continue to reinforce your own acceptance and trust of self.
And in this action, in actively participating in your own trust of self
despite the officially accepted mass belief systems, you shall validate
to yourself that this IS a reality. It is not merely imagination,
but is in actuality a reality.
You may be choosing also to be engaging interaction with Michael in
this area, and he may be offering you information in line with this particular
ability to be creating in this direction. Let me express to you that
I am acknowledging of Michael’s movement many times, for although this
may be viewed rashly by many individuals, Michael holds the ability to
move quickly into areas and apply himself fully into the addressing of
certain aspects of belief systems. I have offered previously the
visual that Michael creates his movement in the manner of jumping quite
into the middle of the pond quite often, not viewing the depth initially,
but allowing himself little fearfulness and creating the movement of this
jumping regardless of what he shall encounter in the middle of the pond.
This serves as an efficient example to many individuals in addressing to
their own fearfulness.
RODNEY: It’s like she gave me a message last week, among several
which I thought were on the money, and she said, “You keep putting patches
on your old car, and it’s old and gray, and consider, have enough trust
to go out and get yourself a new red one, bright red, that it would create
a new direction in your life that would quite amaze you.”
ELIAS: Quite.
RODNEY: Now, with all my concerns about money and about my ability
to earn it and my age and all my limitations, for me to go out and acquire
a bright new red car would require my jumping into the middle of a huge
pond!
ELIAS: And not testing the waters with your toe!
RODNEY: (Laughing) Are you’re suggesting that this is exactly
what I should find myself trusting enough to do?
ELIAS: Let me express to you that within physical focus, you ALL
create objective imagery continuously to be offering yourselves information
as to what you are creating within. Therefore, let us view your example
of your vehicle. You move in the direction of objectively patching
the physical vehicle. This is a mirror action of what you are creating
within. In not trusting, you may view a belief system. You
may also view many of the aspects of the belief system, but you shall place
these as jewels upon a shrine that you shall hold within you.
RODNEY: These patches?
ELIAS: Correct. And each of these aspects of belief systems,
you shall not let go! You shall merely allow yourself to be creating
them in the form of a jewel that you may view whenever you choose, and
you may express to yourself, “What a fine jewel! And I shall hold
this and I shall create an attachment to this! It holds much sentimental
value to myself!” (George roars with laughter) “And
I shall create a wondrous shrine and I shall place this jewel upon this
shrine, that I may view this at any moment that I am so choosing.”
And in your objective outward expression, you hold to a vehicle that is
being patched and patched and patched and run and run and run, and you
shall hold to this vehicle, for it is necessary!
RODNEY: I have to be cautious!
ELIAS: Absolutely!
RODNEY: You’re telling me to hold my cautiousness as a jewel and
to place my cautiousness upon the shrine?
ELIAS: You already have! (Rodney cracks up) I am expressing
to you to be taking this jewel, viewing this jewel, and expressing to yourself,
“This is merely a rock! Why shall I hold this jewel and continue
to place this upon this shrine? I shall be discarding of this rock
and I shall be dismantling of this shrine, for it does not serve me except
to be participating in the action of perpetuating my own limitations.”
And what shall be so very wrong ... ah! This term “wrong!”
Let us not eliminate this, for this is our very duplicitous nature!
And what be so very wrong with your acquiring of your desire of a new red
vehicle that shall move much more efficiently and require much less effort?
RODNEY: The girls may like it!
ELIAS: Quite!
RODNEY: Quite! I read a book. I’m a brown; I’m a color
brown. The book said if I wore a little bit of red, that would symbolize
the energy of flirtatious affairs. If I were to put myself into a
red car, I could be overwhelmed by the energy!
ELIAS: Quite! I shall be expressing to you, if you are moving
into this type of direction, you may be choosing to be acquiring of a bright
orange vehicle, for this shall be the outward symbol of the orange energy
center that you hold within your physical form, which is your sexuality!
(Grinning)
RODNEY: (Laughing) Actually, I’ve been drawn to orange-redness!
(Elias chuckles) I thank you very much for all of that.
ELIAS: You are very welcome.
RODNEY: I do have a couple of other questions.
ELIAS: And you may engage them.
RODNEY: They’re all so important!
I’ll start at the top. (Elias chuckles) A dear friend of mine
... her name is Nancy, and I met her father, an older man, last year.
He had Alzheimer’s, I believe, or something like that, and he did not communicate
with anyone. He would just look at them. We were a large group
of people, and I found that I could not take my attention off of him, nor
could he take his attention off of me. And although I know that at
times this man did not live the sweetest of lives, when I met him and in
the long, long moments that I was with him, I was amazed by his peacefulness
and his accepting of everything. We did not speak, but I was just
filled with a deep feeling of peace and reverence. Could you speak
of this, and could you speak of my relationship to this man? Is there
any connection between us?
ELIAS: It is an offering to you. It is not necessarily
what you view to be a connection, although as there is no separation within
essence, you are essentially connected with all other individuals.
You are they and they are you. But within the framework of your question
of connection, this does not necessarily apply. But this individual
has offered you a moment of viewing. You may view this within your
terminology as a gift.
RODNEY: That it was.
ELIAS: The gift is the offering to be connecting with you momentarily
within consciousness to such an extent that you also hold an objective
awareness of the mergence. It has been an offering of a mergence
of energies, that you may hold the opportunity to view another experience.
Within the creation of this condition, so to speak, or your labeling
of condition, the individual has created an action of moving into the area
of transition while continuing to occupy physical focus, and in this creation
allowed the self to move fully into this action and be accomplishing, to
its fullest extent within physical focus, this action of transition.
In accomplishing this within physical focus before disengagement, there
is an understanding, a knowing, a remembrance of essence, and in this it
may be translated into physical focus as peacefulness, calm, and acceptance.
RODNEY: Thank you.
ELIAS: And this has been offered to you as a gift, that you may
momentarily view this action, that you need hold no fearfulness futurely,
for you have already viewed the action and what you may consider to be
the beneficialness of it.
RODNEY: Thank you.
ELIAS: You are very welcome.
RODNEY: There’s only a couple of minutes left.
One quick question. Years ago I discovered that in my random raging
of emotional daydreams, I have the power to destroy automobiles.
They seem to just malfunction spontaneously (Elias chuckles) and get created
into large sinkers — I call them anchors — never to be driven again.
I was in one of these tirades one day, and I’d been making strong efforts
to be aware of NOT allowing myself to get into them, when one day a large
hawk, a red-tailed hawk — they have very substantial wingspreads — swooped
down over my car — I was only going about twenty-five miles an hour — swooped
down over my car from the back and flew over the front of my hood, about
a foot off the hood, straight down the road in front of me. This
was a remarkable event!
I was immediately startled into a total awareness of what I doing,
why I was doing it, what it was doing to me, etcetera, etcetera, and I
was extremely thankful that this message of this eagle was there to show
me. It was a mirror, saying, “Look, this is what you’re doing.”
ELIAS: Quite. And this also has been a gift.
RODNEY: This is a guide, this eagle?
ELIAS: This is a manifestation of a creation of a gift from the
essence of Rose.
RODNEY: Of Rose.
ELIAS: Correct. The essence of Rose moves very many times
and quite consistently into manifesting gifts for noticing in the form
of birds, and in each encounter of actual physical birds that Rose offers
to individuals within physical focus, they hold a profound experience in
noticing of some element of their creation and their reality within physical
focus. Rose is quite efficient at manipulating the energy consciousness
of birds to be interactive with individuals.
RODNEY: Two years ago, coming home from a beautiful conference,
I saw a deer jump into a line of traffic on a superhighway, six lines of
traffic traveling at least sixty miles an hour, in the dark, in the rain.
I screamed, “No!” Something in me would not allow this to happen,
knowing that the deer was going to be smattered into a thousand bits.
I watched in absolute amazement as I screamed, “No, no, no!” And
I saw that deer leap over the center island and leap through the other
lines of traffic and across the road to safety.
ELIAS: And this is the presentment of your own ability, not of
what you may term to be a guide or some other worldly power, but of your
own ability to be affecting within consciousness and to be presenting to
yourself the validation that you ARE affecting and that your mere desire
shall be quite influencing in actual objective expressions.
RODNEY: Does it always need to be that strong?
ELIAS: No.
RODNEY: ‘Cause I was quite outside of myself in demanding that
this not be.
ELIAS: It needs not be objectively so very strongly expressed,
but for your own awareness and for your own validation of self, this be
the creation that you have offered to yourself in a dramatic experience
that you shall be remembering and noticing.
This is your own creation. Therefore, be acknowledging of yourself
and recognizing the immenseness of your own ability, and this ability may
be applied in the smallest of objective expressions. You may be accomplishing
of the same amazing feats with a mere twitch of your finger!
RODNEY: Elias, I could sit here all day! I’ve only started
on my list of questions! (Elias chuckles) But I do not want
to take advantage of Mary.
ELIAS: And we shall be engaging again.
RODNEY: Thank you. I would very much welcome the opportunity.
ELIAS: And I shall be anticipating this.
RODNEY: I saw you hold hands with a young man last Saturday night.
ELIAS: Quite amusing, was this not? (Grinning)
RODNEY: Yes. Could we shake hands, at least?
ELIAS: (Chuckling) Absolutely! (They begin to shake
hands) And shall we hold together in energy?
RODNEY: Thank you very much.
ELIAS: And shall I provide you with an aspect of my energy that
you may feel physically blanketing around you?
RODNEY: Thank you. Would you pronounce the word Zacharie?
I’m not sure I got the pronunciation correctly.
ELIAS: Zacharie. (The last syllable is pronounced as a long
“I” and is accented, as in Zaker-I’)
RODNEY: Zacharie. That is correct, Zacharie?
ELIAS: Correct.
RODNEY: Not “ie-ree” or “ee-rie,” but Zacharie.
ELIAS: Correct.
RODNEY: This is the name of my essence?
ELIAS: The totality of tone.
RODNEY: Of the essence of which I am a part?
ELIAS: Correct ... of which you ARE.
RODNEY: Of which I AM. Oh my! Thank you.
ELIAS: You are very welcome. And I express much lovingness
to you this day and anticipate our next meeting.
RODNEY: Thank you.
ELIAS: You are very welcome. And I shall be expressing to
you a very fond au revoir.
Elias departs at 11:25 AM.
FOOTNOTES:
(1) Margot initially transcribed this session
and sent me the following note: “As soon as I heard Rodney’s voice, I felt
a distinct connection to him. I can’t recall that this has happened
before with a new voice, and nearly every time I went to type ‘Rodney,’
I began typing ‘George’ instead. Frustrating as well as interesting!!”
So, I’m not going to change “George roars with laughter.” Actually,
this is quite interesting because of another note Margot sent, which is
as follows: “Vic, does it seem to you that Elias spoke especially affectionately
to Rodney? At times it was as if they were two old guys, old friends
having a friendly chat.”
This appears to be connected to a man named Charles who attended a session
on 3/17/96. Elias referred to Charles as an “old friend” and said
he was fragmented of Tomkin, which is the essence that represents the Milumet
family in our game and is one of 12 essences involved with the energy exchange
with Elias. What is interesting is that Mary’s daughter Elizabeth
had an imaginary friend as a child who looked exactly like Charles.
Elias identified this imaginary friend as the essence of Tomkin.
Elizabeth called him George.
What is also interesting is that in my memory, only one person has brought
an infant to a session. This baby was identified by Elias as being
a focus of Tomkin. His physical name is Zachary, which is very similar
to Rodney’s essence name.
Now, a note from Rodney:
“The names all ring bells with me, George in particular. I have
a cousin by this name, but I rarely see him. Actually, I’ll explain
the situation with a little story. Maybe 6 years ago, I formed a
“men’s group” of 12 people who simply thought it might be a good idea.
One of those men has the name Roger.
“Now, after meeting every other week for over three years, I looked
him in the eye one night and addressed him by the name George, and I kept
on talking not realizing what I’d done until the awkward looks started
to clue me in. Worse still, I continued to make this “mistake” until
it appeared that Roger was getting annoyed by it, so I began to make a
concerted effort to stop. In all of this, I realized that I hold
a very special affection for the name George.
“Incidentally, Roger is and lives a life that is very complementary
to mine — what I’m not he is, that sort of thing — and I admire him very
much.”
Now, ain’t that interesting imagery?
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