Individual Expectations,
Topics:
“Individual Expectations”
“Parent/Child Agreements”
“Control is an Illusion”
Saturday, November 20, 1999
© 2000 (Private/Phone)
Participants: Mary (Michael), and a new participant,
Fran (Sandel).
Elias arrives at 1:59 PM. (Arrival time is 16 seconds)
ELIAS: Good morning!
FRAN: Good morning! (Short pause) Elias?
ELIAS: Yes?
FRAN: I’m very delighted to make your acquaintance!
ELIAS: (Chuckling) And you have questions?
FRAN: Yes, I have a lot of questions!
ELIAS: Very well. You may proceed!
FRAN: Okay. I’m going to ask these first, and get them out
of the way. These are the ones that everyone usually asks.
I want to know about various people’s essence names, families, and orientations,
and the first one is my son. (Pause)
ELIAS: Essence name, Jovan; J-O-V-A-N. (zhoe-von’)
FRAN: Okay.
ELIAS: Essence family, Zuli; alignment, Gramada.
FRAN: Gramada, okay.
ELIAS: Orientation, common.
FRAN: Thank you. My husband Hal? (Pause)
ELIAS: Essence name, Lupice; L-U-P-I-C-E. (lou-peese’) Essence
family, Sumari; alignment, Vold; orientation, common.
FRAN: And the final one is a friend of mine from my Seth discussion
group, and his name is Steve. (Pause)
ELIAS: Essence name, Anton; A-N-T-O-N. (an’tawn) Essence
family, Tumold; alignment, Milumet; orientation, common.
FRAN: Thank you very much. There are some surprises in there!
I also want to ask about my orientation. I am assuming it is common.
ELIAS: Orientation in this focus, you are correct, common.
FRAN: Good! Okay. Elias, could you give me some information
on my intent in this focus? (Pause)
ELIAS: And which direction are you proceeding within in this inquiry?
FRAN: Well, I’m not really sure what direction. I’m just
asking a general question about my intent. I know that I am Sumari
and Sumafi. Is there another way I should be asking the question?
ELIAS: No, I am understanding.
As to the direction of the intent within this particular focus, I shall
express to you that in conjunction with this shift in consciousness, your
expression within your intent is to be offering yourself and other individuals
exploration.
In this, what I am expressing is a definition of a type of direction
and manifestation that you create within your particular focus.
This exploration is an offering to yourself of inquisitiveness, in a
manner of speaking. It allows you a motivation, which is ongoing,
to be investigating different ideas, different expressions, different behaviors,
and different manifestations within this particular dimension.
In this, let me express to you that this offers you an opportunity to
be allowing yourself an objective awareness more easily of the differences
of perceptions, which also allows you more of an ease, as you widen your
awareness, to be moving into a direction of acceptance in conjunction with
other individuals.
It may also be helpful to you more so, in a manner of speaking, futurely,
as you turn your attention to self more fully and allow yourself more of
an acceptance of self; not necessarily confining yourself to what may be
acceptable or not acceptable within your society, but what is acceptable
in actuality within all of yourself, and that all of your choices and expressions
ARE acceptable, regardless of the limitations which are placed upon you
within the movement of your societal guidelines.
But as to your movement within your individual intent, which offers
you your value fulfillment, you move more and more into the fullness of
the expression objectively of it in this exploration.
This provides you also with an avenue of fun, for in this curiosity
that you hold and this exploration that you move into quite easily, you
create an element of fun in your inner comparisons. This becomes
a type of game with yourself, that you allow yourself to be exploring different
philosophies and offering yourself objective comparisons of them, but in
a manner that is playful.
This allows you the freedom to be assessing which directions you shall
move into that create a comfortableness within yourself, not necessarily
aligning with any particular direction solely.
Are you understanding?
FRAN: Yes, I am. That’s very interesting. I certainly
go along with what you’re saying about my curiosities! I am insatiable
about some things. Would that be sort of an explanation of why I
am so interested in philosophy and the way people think, and also in primitive
cultures?
ELIAS: Yes, you are correct. This offers you a tremendous
input in information, and allows you the opportunity to evaluate the differences.
But in those differences, you also assess the similarities, and how these
differences in philosophies create many similarities in how individuals
create their reality.
FRAN: Fascinating! Last year my son and I had an opportunity
to spend some time with a group of aboriginal people in a very remote area
of Australia, and it was an incredible experience! I had like daily
challenges to my way of thinking, about how things should be and how things
are, and I think my son had the same experience. Would you like to
comment on that at all?
ELIAS: This also is quite in alignment with your intent of this
exploration, for as you move in the direction of creating these types of
experiences, it offers you more and more objective information in the area
of differences.
This allows you to be challenging yourself within your established belief
systems, and offers you the opportunity to examine the lack of absoluteness
in any direction.
For regardless of which direction individuals choose to be moving into
as they create their reality within this physical dimension, not one direction
is absolute and the “most perfect” or “best method,” so to speak, in how
you may be creating your reality.
You may create your reality quite efficiently in any manner that you
are choosing, and all of the expressions within your dimension are acceptable
and perfect already.
Therefore, this input, so to speak, merely allows you to move more fully
into the expression of your intent in this exploration, offering you many,
many different angles, so to speak, to be viewing ALL of reality; not merely
what you individually create or what another individual creates individually,
but how you move in and out of different beliefs and how you assimilate
different aspects of different philosophies and [how] you incorporate them
into your own creation of your reality.
As you engage this type of action, you may also be noticing that although
there appears to be many elements of different cultures that are expressed
quite unfamiliarly to you, there are also some elements of different philosophies
that you have already naturally incorporated within yourself.
This becomes surprising to you within moments, as you recognize that
you have already incorporated some ideas that you held no awareness objectively
of that are expressed within different cultures and different philosophies.
FRAN: What wonderful information! Thank you. One other
question, and this is something I have been chewing on for three or four
years.
About four years ago, I started noticing praying mantises everywhere,
and it happened about the same time that I was doing a lot of reading about
Carl Jung, and there were a lot of coincidences that happened at the same
time having to do with praying mantises. I was wondering what the
symbol was that I was presenting to myself.
ELIAS: This is an interesting creature ...
FRAN: Oh, absolutely!
ELIAS: ... and an interesting creation within your objective imagery
that you draw to yourself, for this creature presents itself within your
physical creation as at times being quite docile, and also allowing itself
to be quite social.
But this same creature may also create time frameworks of isolation,
and it also creates behaviors that may appear to be quite barbaric within
your belief systems.
In this, this particular small creature offers you objectively an example
in mirror image of yourself and the action that you engage in your creation
of your reality, and mirrors many of your expressions of your beliefs,
and allows you to view many of your beliefs without judgment of the creature.
For within the creature, all of the exhibitions of behaviors are acceptable.
Within yourself, these same exhibitions of behavior may not necessarily
be so very acceptable.
FRAN: Very interesting! I would never have thought that
that was what the meaning of it was. That’s wonderful! Thank
you.
I have over the years had a number of interesting dreams that I now
recognize as what I think of as other focuses, and
I want to discuss not specifically the dreams, but the focuses that were
presented to me, to find out if those in fact are focuses of mine or what.
The first thing is not necessarily a dream, but I have this tremendous
draw to both Tudor and Elizabethan England, and feel a strong attachment
to the court of Henry the Eighth. Do I have a focus there? (Pause)
ELIAS: In this particular country within that time framework,
yes.
FRAN: Is it centered around the court?
ELIAS: No, but the individual has knowledge of this court and
holds an interactive knowledge of political activity and is versed in matters
of state, although does not participate in the actual interaction of it.
FRAN: I’ll have to investigate that further.
In a dream that I had once, I came face-to-face with a young man who,
when I asked him who he was, said, “Well, don’t you recognize me?
I’m you.” And my impression was that I was in the sixteenth century
of Italy, and possibly in Padua at the university. (Pause)
ELIAS: Yes, you are correct.
FRAN: So was this young man an artist? (Pause)
ELIAS: Yes, you are correct ... aspiring! (Chuckling)
FRAN: What does that mean? (Laughing)
ELIAS: Within the moment that you have engaged that particular
focus, he is continuing to be aspiring to greatness, in his belief systems.
(Chuckling)
FRAN: Oh, I see! (Laughing)
I also had a dream several years ago about being a young woman in I
think it was about the eighteenth century in this country, possibly right
around Arkansas or Tennessee, and was somehow involved in a movement with
a group of people west into other parts of Tennessee or Arkansas, and my
family and the people that I was surrounded with were a very rigid, religious
group. Is that correct? (Pause)
ELIAS: Yes, you are correct. Within that focus, there are
many expressions of conflict, for the beliefs held are very strong, and
strongly expressed objectively.
FRAN: I recently had another dream or an impression about a young
woman in about eighteenth century France who was living on an estate.
My impression was that my parents were both dead, and that I was living
with an uncle who was using my money to keep the estate going, and I was
absolutely devastated because I didn’t think I was going to have a dowry
and wouldn’t be able to marry. Is that correct? (Pause)
ELIAS: Yes, you are correct. (Pause)
Vic’s note: There was very slight static on the tape here, barely
noticeable to me, but obviously interfering on Fran’s end.
FRAN: You said yes?
ELIAS: Yes.
FRAN: Oh, okay.
Another interesting dream I had one night was regarding a young man
in Asia. I had the impression that this was contemporary, that this
might have been during the 60s or 70s, that he was a cleric of some sort,
either a missionary or a priest, and that a child — a six or seven-year
old child — had wondered into his village who had become homeless because
of war in the country, and this young man, the one that I think that I
am, chose to paint an incredible picture of this young boy and carry it
around from village to village, looking for his family. Is this one
of my focuses? (Pause)
ELIAS: This is a focus that you hold, although I shall adjust
the time framework for your information, that this focus occupies a time
framework of the initial time period of this century.
FRAN: I see, and is this a missionary? (Pause)
ELIAS: No.
FRAN: A priest? (Pause)
ELIAS: No. This individual has studied religious beliefs,
but has chosen not to be aligning himself with any particular sect.
FRAN: I see. So, there goes more of the exploration! (Elias
chuckles) Right? (Laughing)
ELIAS: Which you shall engage quite easily! (Chuckling)
FRAN: Uh-huh. Another one that came to me several years
ago was the impression that I was a young woman standing on a hill overlooking
a seacoast town — I believe it must have been Great Britain — and I was
extremely content with my life. I was very happy about the village
that my husband and I had settled in. I think he was a craftsman
of some kind, possibly a furniture maker, and I was making dolls, and the
community had really accepted us into the community, and it was just a
time when I was focused on being incredibly happy.
ELIAS: You are correct, and this particular focus occupies the
location of Ireland.
FRAN: Oh, Ireland! And I had the impression it would be
about the seventeenth or eighteenth century.
ELIAS: Seventeenth; sixteen hundreds.
FRAN: Great! Thank you.
The last one I want to ask you about was that recently, just as I was
waking up, I heard what I thought was my own voice saying, “And then I
was moved from concentration camp to concentration camp, where I was repeatedly
raped.” Do I have a focus in the concentration camps of Nazi Germany?
(Pause)
ELIAS: Yes, although I shall express to you that this focus of
essence is not one of the focuses that you may more easily be accessing.
This would be a focus of essence that holds a slightly different tone in
this time framework.
FRAN: Thank you; I don’t have any other ones that I’ve come up
with.
I want to ask you, what’s up with my fourth toe
on my left foot?
ELIAS: (Chuckling, and then a pause) What you are creating
in this situation is a presentment to yourself in conjunction with this
wave in consciousness addressing to the belief system of sexuality.
In this, you are creating a manifestation of manipulating energy in
the presentment of physical affectingness within your physical body, which
creates confusion and at times irritation, and in this, your presentment
is unintrusive to you, but also offers you an opportunity to be noticing
your response to it.
In this, it is a mirror action of different areas in which you hold
similar response to yourself generally. Certain elements within your
reality that you create present themselves to you in your perception as
an irritation and a frustration, and in this create an element of confusion
for you.
You mirror this in an exhibition of energy involving your physical anatomy
with your foot, that you may examine within yourself, through your noticing,
those areas of your expressions which you evaluate and you judge in expressions
of irritation and frustration, and also confusion.
FRAN: (Laughing) Would you like to give me a hint about
what maybe some of those areas are?
ELIAS: Look to certain expressions that you hold in responsiveness
to yourself, in areas that you express that you may be accomplishing better.
FRAN: Oh, I see! Okay, thank you.
This is kind of a general question about the Sumari
family. This came from me feeling that I have a strong connection
with a lot of areas, a lot of historical times where there are broad cultural
movements, and I was wondering if Sumari tend to collect in those time
periods; for example, classical Greece, Age of Enlightenment, today’s shift
in consciousness, the Renaissance in Europe.
ELIAS: I shall express to you, all of the families, as you are
aware, manifest within all of these time periods and all of these movements.
But the Sumari and the Vold families, in the manifestations of essence
within these types of time frameworks, hold more of an objective draw and
allowance of influence of energy, for this moves in conjunction with your
underlying intent, which is held through the expression of the essence
families. For these essences that are belonging to — and partially
those essences aligning with — these two particular essence families draw
upon the energy which is manipulated within those types of expression,
for they are in constant movement of change and insertion of new and altering
ideas and philosophies, and this is quite in alignment with the intents
of these families.
Therefore, there is an allowance of different focuses to be drawing
upon that energy, and this manifests itself in an objective draw to specific
time periods that you may be noticing of great objective movement which
is expressed in specific directions to be creating of new avenues of exploration,
which also moves quite in alignment with your individual intent.
Therefore, there is more of an identification of this type of energy,
not merely with your essence families, but also in conjunction with your
individual intent.
FRAN: Thank you. That’s very interesting.
I’ve had a little bit of ... well, I have to say first of all that for
the most part, I’m pretty happy with the way things are going in my life
right now. I seem to be manifesting pretty well. Things are
going along pretty smoothly.
But I’m having some difficulty with my husband’s attitude toward the
information that you are presenting, and I think that maybe it’s my way
of talking to him about it. He becomes extremely irritated, and I
don’t know what I’m supposed to do about that, if I should just relax and
let him discover it on his own or what. Do you have some advice for
me here?
ELIAS: Ah yes! My suggestion to you is to turn your attention
to self and not to be concerning yourself with the direction of your partner,
for your partner shall draw himself to information that shall speak to
him and shall be the most beneficial to him.
This individual moves in a direction in which he is quite repelling
of information or actions that he views within his perception to be THRUST
in his direction. Therefore, your offering is lending energy to the
very creation that you wish not to be engaging. You are perpetuating
the very expression that you dislike.
In this, as you allow yourself to continue with your exploration and
turn your attention to self and not concern yourself with the direction
of other individuals, you shall be offering more of what you term to be
a statement than you may hope to be in audible words.
Are you understanding?
FRAN: I am, and why did I know that that was exactly what you
were going to say? (Laughing)
ELIAS: Ha ha ha! I am quite understanding of the excitement
and enthusiasm that certain individuals hold — yourself also — in the encounter
of certain information, for you hold an identification of a ringing true,
and this creates an excitement within yourself.
And within YOUR intent, quite obviously — your movement into continuous
exploration and curiosity of different avenues that you may be investigating
— you also allow yourself a tremendous expression of enthusiasm.
And in this, I shall express to you, it is quite natural for you to be
moving in the direction of a want to be sharing what you are experiencing.
Now; let me also express to you that this type of expression is not
singular to you yourself. All of you upon your planet experience
this same movement and this same want in different degrees.
As you are what you term to be unhappy, you choose to draw to yourself
individuals that you wish to share the experience of unhappiness with.
As you are happy or excited, you also wish to be sharing of that experience.
This is natural. This is an objective expression which mirrors your
subjective knowing that there is no separation and that you are all interconnected.
Therefore, as you become excited in any area of your focus, you also choose
to be sharing that excitement with the individual that you have engaged
in agreement as your partner.
Now; you move into areas of conflict in this type of expression as you
turn your attention outward and you divert your attention away from self.
As you continue to hold your attention within self, you are not projecting
to another individual YOUR wants and your desires, and you also are not
projecting the expectation to the other individual that they need be participating
in the same direction as yourself, and therefore offering to you the validation
that you shall offer to yourself. There is....
FRAN: Thank you. That’s great! Thank you. (Laughing)
You know, I know that you’re obviously aware that I have some issues
with control and individual responsibility, and I thought that I was doing
pretty well with that, and I was kind of letting go of a lot of things,
when suddenly I am presented with a new business partner who is extremely
controlling, and I am aware that she must be mirroring some of those issues
back to me. Would you care to comment on that?
ELIAS: You are correct, and this once again offers you a tremendous
opportunity, for yourself AND for another individual. It offers you
the opportunity to view and notice the behaviors and the expressions of
another individual that mirror your own behaviors and expressions.
And in this, as you notice and as you allow yourself the opportunity
to view the expressions of the other individual, identifying them as a
mirror action, you may be examining your behavior and your expectations
of self and of other individuals.
And as you continue to allow yourself to be examining self and your
individual expectations — this is a key word — you shall also allow yourself
to relax your interaction with the other individual in an allowance of
their expression, recognizing that no individual may be in actuality controlling
of any other individual or situation.
Control is an illusion. This is an element of your beliefs.
You perceive that you are controlling elements of your environment, of
yourselves, of each other, of your situations, of your actions, and in
actuality, this is merely an illusion of perception, for there is no necessity
for control.
(Intently) What shall you be controlling that you do not already
hold in reality?
FRAN: Yes, you’re telling me things that I am already well aware
of, but then integrating that information into my life is another whole
issue! (Laughing)
ELIAS: Quite, and this is a process. You are quite right!
This IS an entirely different action — incorporating this into your actual
reality and your behaviors.
But in this, as you allow yourself permission to move through your process
and you allow yourself permission to be moving step-by-step — and not creating
frustration within yourself, that you have not merely actualized a transformation
instantaneously within yourself, for this merely reinforces duplicity —
you shall also allow yourself more freedom into the expression of acceptance
of self and of other individuals. But firstly, of self, for....
FRAN: Thank you very much.
Could you talk to me for a couple of minutes about the agreement
I have with my son in this particular focus? (Pause, and more static)
ELIAS: And what are you inquiring of in agreements with your son?
FRAN: Oh, I was just curious. I have a very nice relationship
with my son. We have a lot of interests in common, and it just seems
like the relationship goes along very nicely. I was assuming that
that’s probably what the agreement was with this relationship, was just
one of support, of mutual support.
ELIAS: Let me express to you, this is a misconception.
This type of creation of relationship is a development moment-by-moment.
It is not necessarily an establishment of an agreement that you have created
as you have agreed to be manifest together. This is a direction of
thought that many individuals move into in a misunderstanding of agreements.
The agreements that you create in manifesting within a relationship
of parent and child are merely to be manifesting as parent and child; one
as the facilitator for the entering focus into this physical dimension,
and one as the entering focus.
But beyond this agreement, you hold no pre-set agreements with each
other as to how you shall be creating your reality in conjunction with
each other, and therefore, you are not creating of a type of destiny with
each other.
As to the flow of the interaction and relationship between yourself
and your son, within this particular focus you offer each other an expression
of acceptance, which offers to you each an objective manifestation and
example of how you may be offering this same expression to yourselves.
This has moved quite efficiently within your focus, and therefore you
continue to be creating this type of movement in conjunction to each other,
for it flows, so to speak, with ease.
But I may also express to you that this is a choice that is created
within each moment, that this type of movement may be altered within any
particular moment, and the reality of the relationship may be quite different.
It is an expression that you have both chosen to be engaging as it continues
to serve you in this....
FRAN: Thank you. That’s very interesting. We are getting
close to the end of our time together. Is there anything that you
would like to say to me in closing?
ELIAS: I express to you merely to be noticing, and also to be
allowing yourself patience with yourself and with your interaction with
other individuals.
Allow yourself, in moments that you begin experiencing tension or frustration,
to stop and to offer yourself permission to be relaxing, and offering yourself
an expression of acceptance merely to yourself, and this may be helpful
to you in lessening certain encounters that you experience that create
confusion within you.
FRAN: Thank you very much. I’ve really appreciated all the
information. It gives me a lot to think about!
ELIAS: You are quite welcome, and I anticipate our continued interaction.
I shall be offering an expression of energy to you in encouragement in
your movement, and I anticipate our next meeting. I offer to you
great affection and express in tremendous lovingness ...
FRAN: Thank you, Elias. Same back at you!
ELIAS: ... au revoir.
FRAN: Au revoir.
Elias departs at 2:54 PM.
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